Retirement Living Options
Do you awaken at night to help your husband to the bathroom? Do you arrange your schedule to fit your mother's doctors' appointments? You are not alone.
According to the 2003 National Alliance for Caregiving/AARP National Caregiver Survey, at least 44.4 million adults provide the care that is so critical in helping friends and loved ones with debilitating illnesses remain in their homes and other community settings. It is estimated that 80 percent of all care received by older Americans is provided by family members – spouses, children, grandchildren and other relatives – people just like you.
About 80 percent of seniors have at least one chronic health condition and 50 percent have at least two. Arthritis, hypertension, heart disease, diabetes, and respiratory disorders are some of the leading causes of activity limitations among older people. - US Census Data
Forty-eight percent of caregivers reported using at least one of seven outside services (e.g., transportation, home-delivered meals, respite, etc.) to supplement their caregiving. Source: National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP
At MorningSide, you will find the freedom to create the kind of personal retirement you want and deserve. There are ten (10) floor plans to choose from, wonderful meals in our Brass Rose Restaurant, housekeeping services, chauffeured transportation and many other features. Please click here (link to amenities and services) to see all that is available at MorningSide. MorningSide offers seniors an active lifestyle option; please check out our extensive calendar of events by clicking here (link to newsletter). Monthly, our director of activities and volunteers develop a comprehensive plan of cultural, physical, educational and just plain fun events for our residents’ enjoyment.
We can all use a bit of assistance every so often, yet we still want our privacy and our freedom to maintain as much independence as possible. At MorningSide, we decided not to segregate our assisted living residents. Once you are in your home apartment, you can stay there. There is no need for another move or a further downsizing. Please click here for a list of both our assisted living and VIP services.
WHEN IS IT TIME TO MOVE?
A Guide to Help Adult Children Convince Their Parents it is Time to Move to Assisted Living — By Susan Albers, Executive Director
Your life is complicated. Not only are you focusing on your family, your children, your career, your marriage but now you are worrying about mom or dad. Recognizing that they are having difficulty maintaining their lifestyle, you are not sure they can continue as they have.
Knowing When the Time Comes
Knowing that your aging parent needs to move to assisted living and getting them to accept it is not always easy. They want their independence for as long as possible, although it is not always best for them.
When your parent has trouble taking care of him or herself, or the house, it may be time to consider a change. With open discussion, you can determine how to move forward by identifying all options (hiring a cleaning service, hiring a home health aide, a landscaping service, etc.) The defining time comes, however, when it is no longer safe for them to stay at home.
When it’s Time to Discuss Alternatives
Timing is everything. The time to talk about a possible move is before it is necessary. By the time your parent reaches seventy to seventy five years old, or is diagnosed with a potentially troublesome medical problem, such as heart disease or dementia, you should begin to talk with them. Opening the lines of communication about living solutions is important to do early, when the decision is not rushed.
Understanding Your Parent's Feelings and Fears
Many adult children are met with obstinacy or even hostility when they approach their parents with the possible need for assisted living. Having lived an independent and meaningful life, many seniors are afraid they will become a burden to their children, or become forgotten.
Focus on the positives of moving to a community out of choice, versus the need brought on by poor health and age. You should join your parents to visit the community, and take a tour. Many are almost like resorts, with restaurant-style dining rooms, classes and clubs to join, special shows and speakers to enjoy, and much more. Convincing your parent to move is no easy task. You have to understand their fears and be sensitive to their changing needs. By starting early and keeping open lines of communication, everyone involved should be able to make the transition smoothly. At MorningSide of College Park, we work with families to make the transition as easy as possible. We are the premiere senior living community in Indianapolis and are here to find the best choice for your parent.